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F.R.I.E.N.D.S

FRIENDS....
A blog about which i dreamt about writing in my slumber yday..probably coz of the sms i recieved from a friend of mine at the twelth hr wishing me for friendship day...Though i hav divided opinion about celebrating a day for friendship,love ,mom et all..This world wud not have been the same if it was not for my friends..Friends..though they were different at different times and would mean different to me yday , today n tom..but they hav walked beside me all along though it was some X some 10 year bac n Y now...
We all have friends right from our kinder garden...Though it was so simple to befriend someone then, a person who lended me his toffee wud become the best friend for that day n the honour wud pass on to a diff person the next day as he was ready to help me with my homework..Then came the bus stop friends..tution friends..n so on..Those were days when the relationship of a friend was so pure n straght from heart with no expectations from either side..n then we grew up..n with us our selfishness...Now i was the Mr.Ambitious..The I in sheikh was so paramount to me..There fell my friend on my wayside of my life,,,n wot did i do?? jus walked on ..Now i was in a so called better school than my mate..I used to remind myself of him once in a while of where n how he would be ..Those food breaks when we use to finish our fud in 5 mins n try to squeeze in a game before the death knell sounds the start of the class..N when he used to write the imposition given to me as a reward of me helping during the exam..The higher secondary days had their share of friends,who picked the cricket bats with me and attended tution with me all day long..And then i was suppose to board the train to Bits..Day 1 in bits..There i got my friend in the form of my room mate n then others followed suite..And again i was happy with my new found friends that i hardly bothered to look bac at my school mates..N finally when i did realise to look back,we had moved so far in our lives that nothing seemed to be of common interst to us now..So, there i preferred to stick with my guys of today..n then as all things gud or bad come to an end..bitsian life did come to an end..As i knew myself pretty well..This time arnd i made it a point to be in contact with a selected few n stick to it..And it did work out to a certain extent but u cant force fate..can u?? I might not befreind someone new...but can i force my friend not to?? There he was doing what i did a few years back..I was walking bac in time humming the lines " Iruttinilae nee nadakkum poludhu, un nilalum unnai vittu pirindhu vidum"..n the rest were walking in the opposite rather the right direction....
I did realise lately that i ws fighting against the laws of nature...todays friends were jus like the X whom i lended the crayon n Y with whom i played cricket..Its stupidity in my part to tie someone down with me..Its not about being possessive about someone or some relationship,i have always thanked myself for not imbibing that characteristic..but it took me all long to realise that in the process of preserving my happines i have forgot to smile itself..Friends come in all forms..some walk with you for a day..like the ones you meet in a train journey..some last longer..for a year or so..n there are also a few who bug you for a decade..n there are few pests :D which refuse to leave u alone all your life..You are a fool, If you expect the person whos' relationship is best kept for an year to stay with you all your life..You are doing no gud to both ..

And there are few who become more than jus friends..These are the ones who for no fault of theirs bear the brunt or the cream of the relationship..These are people who either lose the tag of friends n don a much special one..or become a part of your memories..If i say that the person wud still be my gud friend till death then i wud be cheating her or iam belittling wot friendship is..Ob!! person would be special to you in more ways than one..She would mean everthing to you n probably more..but friendship expects nothing as a relationship but love expects everything as a part of relationship..There is a thin line between the two but the last word is tat THERE is a line..

Coming bac to Mr. Selfish, it was so easy to love and befriend someone for me in my school days ..but i could hardly do it now.As someone had said.."People forget to love as they spend all the time judging the person".Very true..I do it ..I spend almost the entire day evaluating a person who is anyways gonna depart at the end of the day..Putting it succcintly...More Circumspect..n more day by day....

And looking at how friendship has evolved with the advent of mobiles , chat rooms...it used to bewilder me first how cud some 2 ppl become friend w/o even meeting once...Rather i was so against this whole concept of chat friends ...leave alone chat friends...even chatting didnt figure in to my scheme of things then..Not that i have changed radically now..i chat only with a handful even now..Actually if u open the wound a bit further, u cud find that it had actually existed during ur fathers days in the form of pen pals...jus that then the ppl had to wait for days to recieve a response while now u get one even before u complete a sentence :) Technology u c..
Probably i was reluctant to imbibe the change ...but eventually had to.. else wud have lost a gud friend as a price for my indifference...

But this cant explain an article i read a few days bac...tat NEwYork has a portal named "RentaPal" where you can rent a friend fr an hr or so..OH my god!!! has the human life become so mechanical that one doesnt hav time to befriend someone...Probably iam criticising again a change here ...and this might (hopefully not) become a part of life in our future..